Have you ever thought to yourself:
“How dare he (she) speaks to me like that…?!”
“How dare they want me to….?!”
“Just who the hell do they think they are asking me to do this?”
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We often complain about how others treat us, things they do or say (or don’t do or don’t say)…
No wonder, some of the things others demand of us are truly outrageous, both at the workplace but also in our personal lives.
My dear friend, such is life! You may not like it, but the truth is that we cannot control what others do or how they behave towards us.
I believe that instead of complaining, a much more sensible approach is to assume that people HAVE THE RIGHT to treat others the way they please.
Just as YOU HAVE THE RIGHT to define what’s OK and what is NOT OK for you and make your decisions accordingly.
If you’re in a leadership position, being able to set your boundaries is essential. Leaders with poor boundaries end up exhausted, overburdened and resentful. But that’s not all! Such leaders can easily become toxic to the people around them who have to “suffer” the consequences of the leader’s actions and decisions…
Now, going back to you.
If you don’t like the way people treat you at the workplace (or back home), here are some questions you can start asking yourself:
✅ Do I know what is OK and what is NOT in my interactions with my boss? My colleagues? My team? My children… ? etc etc
✅ Do THEY know?
✅ How well do I communicate what I want and need, how I want to be treated, what is acceptable for me and what is not?
✅ Is it acceptable for me to pick up work calls at 9pm? To regularly work on weekends? (be as concrete as you can with your questions)
✅ Do I have the ability to say NO to things I don’t want to do?
Because the subject of BOUNDARIES is so critical, we are currently preparing a video for you and a live ONLINE COFFEE TALK to share ideas and exchange experiences about defining and enforcing personal and professional boundaries.
Interested in this topic?
Great! Drop me a note and tell me: What specifically would you like to know? What is your current challenge when it comes to setting boundaries with the people around you?
I’ll make sure your question is answered during the talk!
Looking forward to hearing from you!
By Alena Huberova
Trainer, Speaker and Founder of SHELeads
Helping women know their inner strength,
find the powerful leader within and unapologetically
lead THEIR way!
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ABOUT ALENA HUBEROVA
Alena has a professional background in sales, marketing and communication in a variety of sectors including IT, Travel and Tourism, Wellness and Beauty. In her work with clients, Alena combines corporate experience & professional expertise with her training in Emotional Intelligence, NeuroLinguistic Programming (NLP), Coaching & Mentoring and Meditation. She lived and worked in 5 different countries across Europe and Asia.
Amongst her achievements is speaking at the TEDx UNYP 2017 conference, winning second place in the 2018 Czech National Championship of Public Speaking, and in collaboration with Presenation.com, coaching X.GLU, a team from the Czech Technical University to win the world title at the Microsoft Imagine Cup 2017 in Seattle, USA.
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